Collaborative Divorce is forward thinking in its solutions, particularly when there are minor children involved. Parents will deal with each other regularly so long as there are minor children. Even when minor children reach adulthood there are multiple occasions when the involvement of both parents in the child’s life is helpful.
In regard to minor children, parents need to cooperate in meeting their health care needs such as regular appointments with the pediatrician, regular dental visits, optical check-ups, orthodontia appointments, and possibly counseling. At times there will be emergency or surgical needs for such things as tubes for the ears, tonsillectomies, appendicitis, broken bones or other types of sports related injuries, and a host of other possible health care needs.
The education of minor children is a top priority for parents, and each parent has a responsibility to assist in the education of their children. Collaborative Divorce also permits parents to address the needs of their children regarding college education, and to reach agreements regarding each parent’s role in providing financial and other types of practical support to their children.
The extra-curricular activities of minor children such as sports, music, theater, dance, art, gymnastics, swim team, and any other interest that a child may have can be addressed. These activities often overlap both parents’ parenting time, and require cooperation and commitment of time and financial resources by both parents. It is important for both parents to be able to participate in these decisions, and to both attend events that promote their individual relationship with each child.
When children have special needs such as learning disabilities, and mental or physical handicaps, the need for parental involvement and support may well go past the age of majority. These children may require constant care and supervision, financial support, and a plan for their care beyond the death of their parents.
The Collaborative Divorce process recognizes that the parenting needs of children change as the children become older and more mature. The collaborative process can address these needs for change in a way that continues to maintain a close relationship with both parents, while permitting more independence for the children.
Adult children of divorce can have a litany of bad experiences from dealing with their divorced parents. Collaborative Divorce makes every effort to avoid those bad memories. Parents in a Collaborative Divorce are reminded to think of their future with their adult children so that both parents can comfortably and peacefully attend their adult children’s weddings, showers, events with future grandchildren such as christenings, baptisms, bar mitzvahs, and a host of other events in their adult children’s lives.
Collaborative divorces in situations where couples have no children are also forward looking. The goal is to avoid resentment, hardship, and bitterness, and to place the spouses each in a position where they can flourish emotionally and financially. Each spouse should receive compassion and respect from the other, and be given the opportunity for a healthy future.
In regard to minor children, parents need to cooperate in meeting their health care needs such as regular appointments with the pediatrician, regular dental visits, optical check-ups, orthodontia appointments, and possibly counseling. At times there will be emergency or surgical needs for such things as tubes for the ears, tonsillectomies, appendicitis, broken bones or other types of sports related injuries, and a host of other possible health care needs.
The education of minor children is a top priority for parents, and each parent has a responsibility to assist in the education of their children. Collaborative Divorce also permits parents to address the needs of their children regarding college education, and to reach agreements regarding each parent’s role in providing financial and other types of practical support to their children.
The extra-curricular activities of minor children such as sports, music, theater, dance, art, gymnastics, swim team, and any other interest that a child may have can be addressed. These activities often overlap both parents’ parenting time, and require cooperation and commitment of time and financial resources by both parents. It is important for both parents to be able to participate in these decisions, and to both attend events that promote their individual relationship with each child.
When children have special needs such as learning disabilities, and mental or physical handicaps, the need for parental involvement and support may well go past the age of majority. These children may require constant care and supervision, financial support, and a plan for their care beyond the death of their parents.
The Collaborative Divorce process recognizes that the parenting needs of children change as the children become older and more mature. The collaborative process can address these needs for change in a way that continues to maintain a close relationship with both parents, while permitting more independence for the children.
Adult children of divorce can have a litany of bad experiences from dealing with their divorced parents. Collaborative Divorce makes every effort to avoid those bad memories. Parents in a Collaborative Divorce are reminded to think of their future with their adult children so that both parents can comfortably and peacefully attend their adult children’s weddings, showers, events with future grandchildren such as christenings, baptisms, bar mitzvahs, and a host of other events in their adult children’s lives.
Collaborative divorces in situations where couples have no children are also forward looking. The goal is to avoid resentment, hardship, and bitterness, and to place the spouses each in a position where they can flourish emotionally and financially. Each spouse should receive compassion and respect from the other, and be given the opportunity for a healthy future.
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